Natural Hair Rules has raised a very important question. “What are men saying about natural hair?”
Natural Hair Rules has raised a very important question “What are men saying about natural hair?”
I think that that there is a much larger number of black men who are attracted to girls with ’straight’ hair. Society has taught them that Natural is Nappy and Nappy is ugly and undignified. Now there is nothing with wanting to appeal to men. Women like to look physically attractive to men, it’s natural (and vice versa).
I love a woman with natural hair because it is like her finger print. It’s hers and no one has her print. Any man who cannot see the beauty of natural hair is missing the big picture in my opinion. ( Side bar what made Black women straighten there hair to begin with…. Think about it ??) I don’t apportion blame onto women because so much of the female identity is still wrapped up in the patriarchy that controls the majority of societies in the world. I think natural hair is beautiful because it’s blackness personified before manipulation. It’s a shame some black men could not see the beauty of natural hair.
I enjoy a woman who is confident in herself. For example my wife Tamara is wearing natural hair and even with no make up she still looks dynamically gorgeous. Her non-conforming appearance seems to point to the fact that this particular woman is not swayed by the superficial facades of societies standard of what a beautiful black woman is. Natural is beautiful. This does not mean, however, that women who have perms and/or weave are shallow or lost or not real . It just seems that they are less likely to reject the “medias” standards of beauty. I won’t say that one is better than the other…just that being confident in your own skin is attractive…regardless of which package it comes in.
Stay Black Stay Beautiful,
Benjamin Floyd
Husband of natural and dynamically gorgeous woman.
Dawn G says
September 12, 2011 at 12:46 pmGreat article! I have been natural for 2 yrs now. I flat ironed my hair on Saturday after a year of braid outs and he walked in the bathroom with apparent disappointment and asked “why are you doing that!?” So after giving myself a much needed haircut (which was the reason for straightening) I put some oils in it and did a twist out. He is happy again. On one hand we can all say it doesnt matter if anyone else likes it, but on the other hand we still want to remain attractive to our mates. I am grateful for the support and adoration I get from my husband.
Trina says
May 15, 2011 at 8:40 amMy husband absolutely loves my natural hair and will tell anyone that will listen to him just how much he LOVES natural hair. If it were up to him, he’d throw my flat iron away and I’d never wear my hair straight. I wore my hair short for years and starting growing it out July 2010 and decided to go back to short hair. When I decided to cut my hair he gave an emphatic YES!!! and asked…what took you so long?! He digs the skin I’m in and my natural tresses. I’m so thankful.
Tara says
April 12, 2011 at 2:29 pmThat was beautiful:-). My husband loves my hair natural. I’ll admit, he had to adjust, but he was always in favor of me going natural. I was very uncomfortable when I first started wearing my hair curly. It was him that helped me regain my confidence.