I have a question for you! What’s your superpower?
To date, my greatest superpower is learning to forgive even when the apology never came.
I’ve never had any problems apologizing. If anything I apologize a lot more than I should.
I come from a family that believes you are responsible for other people’s feelings. You say sorry if you offended or hurt anyone’s feelings.
So my issue was not apologizing it was learning how to forgive when the apology never came.
This was a hard and very difficult lesson especially coming out of a marriage where my ex-spouse rarely took responsibility for his actions.
There were many times I was left holding the bag.
I found myself in a state of constant anger and resentment. I didn’t want to stay there so I had to learn how to forgive when the apology never came. Not only was there no apology there wasn’t any restitution.
I spent a lot of time in the Crossfit gym and in therapy, where I learned first and foremost self-forgiveness.
It’s very difficult to pour from an empty cup. Forgiveness is no different.
You can’t extend anyone forgiveness if you’re unwilling or unable to first forgive yourself.
Forgive yourself for staying longer than you should’ve. Forgive yourself for allowing the mistreatment.
Even if you’re betrayed, it’s not your fault but it is your responsibility to forgive yourself for the role that you played. Maybe you didn’t speak up or you turned a blind eye to your betrayer. No matter what it was you have to accept that it did in fact happen.
Also, acknowledge each act and do not make excuses for anyone. It’s easy to get caught up in other’s intent.
You can’t hold people accountable for their intent only their actions.
Accept, Acknowledge Responsibility, and Forgive Yourself. This is the clearest path to healing!
Feel free to reply to comment and tell me your ‘What’s Your Superpower?’