I originally read Relaxed Without Permission on BlackMarriedWithKids.com a few months ago. I was outraged. I would probably have to cut somebody. The ‘AUDACITY!’ Can you imagine sending your child with natural hair to relative’s and they come back with chemically treated hair. Apparently, this isn’t uncommon at all. I just wouldn’t know what to do with myself.
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…I’ve been told similar horror stories [of relaxing without permission]. In both situations children with natural hair were sent for short visits with relatives and were returned with relaxed hair! In the first story the mom sent her two daughters to be with their dad and stepmom for Spring Break and the stepmom put relaxers in both girls hair. In the second story parents sent their daughter with grandparents for the holidays and she was returned with hair that had been chemically relaxed.
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I would be outraged but on the other hand people need to do their kids hair so their relatives won’t have to worry about doing the kids “a favor”
People are slack on one end and people need to mind their business on the other
I agree and disagree with you. My mother always had to do my cousins’ hair when they visited because their mom was barely even WASHING it. However, there is also a lot of agreement as to what “done” is. For example, my mom does not think an afro is “done” and she thinks it needs to be styled. I completely disagree. If I send my child to you with an afro, that may be because I want them to have an afro. My friend’s mother cut her son’s long hair, because she thought that letting hair grow on boys isn’t being “done.” I think that the best thing is to ask and avoid the issue altogether.
This happened to me. Sadly, my mother didn’t care enough about my hair at the time to do much about it, but I had went to my father’s house for the weekend and his girlfriend, who frequently braided my hair, decided to put a relaxer in. It didn’t turn out well at first, because all I remember is my hair still being wavy, but not curly like it once was. At the time I had BSL and within less than two years (and many relaxers later) I was left with barely CBL. I was too young at the time to be able to go against it, but it was so upsetting. For many years my father blamed me for the change in my hair. I just find it so funny now that his gf (at the time now wife) have two kids and they refuse to relaxer either of their hair.