Natural Hair Rules has raised a very important question. “What are men saying about natural hair?”
Natural Hair Rules has raised a very important question “What are men saying about natural hair?”
I think that that there is a much larger number of black men who are attracted to girls with ’straight’ hair. Society has taught them that Natural is Nappy and Nappy is ugly and undignified. Now there is nothing with wanting to appeal to men. Women like to look physically attractive to men, it’s natural (and vice versa).
I love a woman with natural hair because it is like her finger print. It’s hers and no one has her print. Any man who cannot see the beauty of natural hair is missing the big picture in my opinion. ( Side bar what made Black women straighten there hair to begin with…. Think about it ??) I don’t apportion blame onto women because so much of the female identity is still wrapped up in the patriarchy that controls the majority of societies in the world. I think natural hair is beautiful because it’s blackness personified before manipulation. It’s a shame some black men could not see the beauty of natural hair.
I enjoy a woman who is confident in herself. For example my wife Tamara is wearing natural hair and even with no make up she still looks dynamically gorgeous. Her non-conforming appearance seems to point to the fact that this particular woman is not swayed by the superficial facades of societies standard of what a beautiful black woman is. Natural is beautiful. This does not mean, however, that women who have perms and/or weave are shallow or lost or not real . It just seems that they are less likely to reject the “medias” standards of beauty. I won’t say that one is better than the other…just that being confident in your own skin is attractive…regardless of which package it comes in.
Stay Black Stay Beautiful,
Benjamin Floyd
Husband of natural and dynamically gorgeous woman.
Wow!! Great read!
YOU HAVE A BEAUTIFUL HUSBAND. i love your relationship
One of the reasons my boyfriend of 3 years said he first stopped when he saw me the day we met was because of my hair. He said he thought, “Look at that natural cutie!” I love that about him. He encourages me to be naturally as I am.
Amen brother!
This is the most eloquent reading I’ve read when dealing with a man’s (a Black man at that) perception on natural hair…
…simply wonderful…
That is wonderful and encouraging!! I did my BC on Friday and my husband likes it alot.
You’re blessed to have such an understanding husband…who lets you be you!!!!
Cool. Its hard for me. Its hard for me to go out where appearance is super important w my natural, but im working on it.
Thanks for this post
My husband and son looked at me strange when I did my Big Chop. Now I believe they have an appreciation in my natural beauty. My son even stretch my coils out just to watch them snap back to my head…lol.
I just want to say thank you….today I found my self torn between my natural hair or my “individual imprint” and wanting to appeal to men who are at time very fickle creatures. However the mere fact that you see the beauty in your wife’s natural hair gives me hope that all is not lost in the world
Thank you and many blessings.
I know yo man definitely won some love points with you on that one. You are blessed to be loved and appreciated by a beautiful black man. Isn’t this what all women want from their man, appreciation!
Blessings napnatcool.blogspot.com
Now that is just too special! Your husband affirming your decision to be natural…and then just loving it. You guys are blessed! Blessings to you.
I really liked this. Unfortunately the guy I talking to right now keeps trying to get me to get extensions or flat iron my hair, he is not feelin my fro but I love it and that is all that matters. I told him if I wanted straight hair I would get a perm. My hair crack days are long over and on the 8th of november I will celebrate one year as a happy nappy. By the way, your hair is beautiful girl.
My husband is Filipino and I’m Black and tonight I let him know that I was taking out my individual braids and wearing my hair natural and short again. He said, “Okay Honey, whatever makes you feel good.” I love that my husband has always supported me with my hair endeavors. I told him I felt as though I was wearing the braids for everyone else. I kept getting compliments about how nice I look with the long braided hair, but I felt incomplete and fake! So, tomorrow I will begin the long task of unbraiding my hair. I will be rocking the short do, because I love it and I don’t care what others think besides my husband.
If you addicted to crack cream, weaves or other hair nonsense. Girl, step back and really see what is going on. We have GOOD HAIR.
My gf (naturalchica) is natural and I love it. Sometimes i poke fun because I am so happy that she is comfortable with her natural hair. I do admit, I do have a preference towards permed hair, but there is something about having a woman that is confident and that makes me more happy than what i’m “used” to. There are so many girls out there that have permed hair that are so unconfident it actually is a turn-off. Be natural, Be beautiful!
THIS IS SO BEAUTIFUL AND MY MAN IS VERY MUCH THE SAME HE LOVES MY NATURAL HAIR AND I PROMISE NOT TO GO BACK TO PERMS THIS IS ME THIS IS GOOD HAIR THEY BETTER ASK SOMEBODY…..LOL
I AGREE!!! MY WIFE IS A VERY BEAUTIFUL WOMAN, AND SHE’S EVEN MORE BEAUTIFUL WITH HER NATURAL LOOK. AT FIRST I WAS KIND OF SCARED AS TO HOW IT WOULD TURN OUT AFTER SHE GOT IT DONE, BUT NOW I CAN’T STAY AWAY FROM HER. I LOVE IT.
w00t w00t
think about it ladies, do you want your man to love you for what you are, or for what Maxim tells him you should be?
i love the natural, i love the Naps!
– a poster of the male persuasion
I love to see African-American men who appreciate natural hair. My boyfriend actually encouraged me to go natural and its one of the best decisions I have made.
My boyfriend is also my biggest supporter and encouraged me transitioning from relaxed to natural!! I truly love him for that. Love you KD…muah!
My boyfriend loves natural hair. As a matter of fact, he loves natural period. Being natural not only encourages a level of respect for your hair, but for yourself. Being natural spreads into other areas of your life. My son now has locs and I feel that there is a bond that is constantly being nurtured when I maintenance his hair. He also sees his mom completely comfortable in her own skin. I want that to be an example of the type of mate that he chooses for himself.
Going natural is the best decision that I’ve ever made. I love men who love natural women.
Love your site/story. I dated a guy who after I went natural said that he preferred my hair straight. He actually had the nerve to ask me to change it back. I informed him that I loved my hair the way it is and it was staying that way. . . we are no longer together. He could not accept me in my natural state so he had to go. I’ve been natural for 8 years and wear mostly twists and twist outs. Some people think because you wear your hair natural that your hair is not as clean; when actually our hair is extremely clean because it is washed more often to maintain the style. They also think that you must burn incense and listen to Bob Marley all day . . . uniformed and brainwashed.
My husband told me that the only thing that saves me is my beautiful face! How rude of him! After 21 yrs of marriage, I told him, I am nappy happy…and no turning back!!!!
My husband likes my hair as long as I don’t cut it he says that he was raised in the deep south and it was not good when a women cut her hair. I have been natural off an on during my life and usually keep it short but now I am letting it grow and do what ever it wants to do. I love my hair and as for my husband he does too. It was a few weeks ago and were sitting on the couch and I was a little tired and I asked him to help me twist and he had a good time doing it so I think that he likes it. The only thing he says is don’t cut it. Now some of my friends thats a different story…They like it short..but I don’t have to live with them…
I could care less what my man thinks about my hair. I’m the one who has to live with my hair and if it pleases me, that is what I care about.
The biggest critics of me wearing my hair curly rather than blow dried straight when I went natural were black men. It hurt me so much. My former pastor would call me bush head. Ironically, it was white men and women that embraced me in my natural state. Then interestingly enough, the same black women that looked at me crazy started letting their perms grow out and now I get just as many compliments from my brown sistahs as I do from my white sistahs. And although many black men seem to prefer the straight hair, I am starting to get more compliments from them when I’m wearing it curly.
My Boyfriend Loves My Natural Hair. I Jst Did An Extreme Big Chop In The Beginning Of January And He Has Been The Force Pushing Me Through Those Not So Good Day. I Was Pleasantly Surprised That He Was Ok With It Because We Are Just 18 And Looks Really Matter At This Age And I Am Greatly Thankful For His Support. His Sister Has Been Natural For Quite A While Now And I Guess She’s Drilled The Natural Love Into Him…Lol
That was beautiful:-). My husband loves my hair natural. I’ll admit, he had to adjust, but he was always in favor of me going natural. I was very uncomfortable when I first started wearing my hair curly. It was him that helped me regain my confidence.
My husband absolutely loves my natural hair and will tell anyone that will listen to him just how much he LOVES natural hair. If it were up to him, he’d throw my flat iron away and I’d never wear my hair straight. I wore my hair short for years and starting growing it out July 2010 and decided to go back to short hair. When I decided to cut my hair he gave an emphatic YES!!! and asked…what took you so long?! He digs the skin I’m in and my natural tresses. I’m so thankful.
Great article! I have been natural for 2 yrs now. I flat ironed my hair on Saturday after a year of braid outs and he walked in the bathroom with apparent disappointment and asked “why are you doing that!?” So after giving myself a much needed haircut (which was the reason for straightening) I put some oils in it and did a twist out. He is happy again. On one hand we can all say it doesnt matter if anyone else likes it, but on the other hand we still want to remain attractive to our mates. I am grateful for the support and adoration I get from my husband.