• Skip to primary navigation
  • Skip to content
  • Skip to primary sidebar
Menu
  • Home
  • About
  • Start Here
  • Shop
  • Blog
    • 10 Steps To Growing Long Natural Hair10 Things Keeping You from Growing Long Natural Hair
    • 13417562_10208756308237850_3160917523045525435_n10 Ways to Get Rid of Dry, Unmoisturized Natural Hair
    • Chi-Deep-Brillance-Blow-Dryer-for-Natural-Hair-Purple5 Tips for Buying A Blow Dryer for Natural Hair
    • 8 Reasons Your Hair STOPPED Growing... Or It Look Like It Has8 Reasons Your Hair STOPPED Growing… Or It Look Like It Has
    • Close
  • Free Gift
  • Search

Natural Hair Rules!!!

Your Hair Authority

Want Juicy Hair?

Enter your name and email to receive our FREE eBook:
Juicy Hair: 7 Ways to Keep Your Hair From Being Dry.

Latest Posts…

Biotin: How Does It Work and Is It Safe?

Biotin: How Does It Work and Is It Safe?

LOC Method Everything You Need To Know

LOC Method: Everything You Need to Know

It’s My 34th Birthday But That’s Not Why I’m Celebrating

For 2 Years I Contemplated My Divorce

Hairspiration: Dr. Phoenyx Austin

Share This Post

  • Tweet
  • WhatsApp
  • Email
  • Print
  • Share on Tumblr
  • More
  • Pocket

In HairStory On 09/07/11

War and Peace: My Hair Story


[ad#horizontal-banner]

Hi, my name is Phoenyx and I’m so excited to be guest blogger on Natural Hair Rules!! It’s such a joy to see so many beautiful, natural-haired women on this site! I definitely look forward to sharing future posts with all of you. And since this is my first post, I thought it would be best to get better acquainted by sharing my hair story. So here it goes…

I got my first relaxer in kindergarten. And if I had to describe the experience, I would say it was a full on indoctrination. I didn’t know why it was being done- but I was told that the process was making my hair “more manageable.” Every 6-8 weeks of new growth was instantly met with relaxer. That was the protocol. And that’s the way things continued until I later became fully conscious of the constant conundrum of wanting to look good (as most budding young women do), but being in a constant state of hair vigilance. Sweat, water, wind (actually all the elements) were my biggest hair adversaries, and I did everything possible to avoid them- even to the detriment of my own enjoyment.

I didn’t realize it then, but I had become a prisoner to my hair. On occasion, I would wonder what it would be like to be free of the relaxer ritual. But that wasn’t enough to ignore the social and psychological stigma of natural hair. I was very fearful. And though my chemically-processed hair was literally driving me up a wall, I still felt safer with a perm. I’m sure many of you ladies can relate.

That’s the way things continued until one hot, humid and hell-ish hair day in the summer of 2005. I was in front of the bathroom mirror desperately trying to once again make something of my chemically-damaged mess. That’s when I finally stopped cursing my hair and instead forced myself to answer a really hard question: “˜Why am I doing this to myself?’ It was a profound moment for me and after I honestly answered the question, I made the decision to go natural right then and there.

It’s so wild to now look in the mirror, style my hair, smile, and see a totally different person than who existed almost 6 years ago. Since going natural, even a “˜bad hair day” is a “fab hair day.” I love my hair- kinks, curls, coils and all. And I love the feeling of freedom and inner peace that comes from finally embracing the hair that I was born to rock.
[ad#horizontal-banner]

What do you think of my hair story? Was it similar to yours?

If you have a question/comment or want to know more about our writer, Dr. Phoenyx Austin, you can find her on herFacebook page and Twitter! Dr. Phoenyx is a physician, writer, & media personality.

Share This Post

  • Tweet
  • WhatsApp
  • Email
  • Print
  • Share on Tumblr
  • More
  • Pocket

Related

Leave a Comment By Tamara

About Author

Tamara is the Founding Editor of Natural Hair Rules!!! Natural Hair Rules (NHR) was originally created as her personal hair journal. Since its creation in 2008, it has grown to one of the top natural hair/beauty blogs online today.

You can also find me on...

Instagram || Facebook || Twitter || SnapChat || Pinterest || Blog

Is your hair always dry?

Enter your name and email to receive your FREE Copy:
Juicy Hair: 7 Ways to Keep Your Hair From Being Dry.

Reader Interactions

Leave Your Question or Comment Below Cancel reply

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.

Primary Sidebar

Trending!!!

8 Reasons Your Hair STOPPED Growing... Or It Look Like It Has
The LOC Method [Liquid.Oil.Cream]
Biotin: How Does It Work and Is It Safe?
LOC Method: Everything You Need to Know
3 Differences Between Castor Oil and Jamaican Black Castor Oil
Got Dry Locs
  • Walking in Purpose Becomes A Cake Walk Once You Take
  • 12 MasterClasses amp Books for than 90 OFF the full
  • Thanksgiving is Its my favorite holiday probably because its the
  • I Made a Mistake I did the math and this
  • Do you remember this?  Google natural hair and youll
  • This handsome prince is 7 today!!!   I wrote
  • Today IS A CELEBRATION  Were celebrating my 34th Birthday!!!
  • Divorcing Your Friends We are mere hours away from the

Natural Hair Rules In Your Inbox!

  • About Natural Hair Rules!!!
  • Disclosure/ Privacy Policy
  • Archives
  • Contact

© 2011 - Natural Hair Rules. All Rights Reserved. Design by Her Name Is Kim & Development by AW Development + Design

loading Cancel
Post was not sent - check your email addresses!
Email check failed, please try again
Sorry, your blog cannot share posts by email.