With all the self-proclaimed critics in the world you have to combat negativity with positive self-talk. If you wouldn’t say it to anyone else; you certainly shouldn’t say it to yourself. Positive words of affirmation make any negativity null and void.
I was hanging with some friends. Three of them were talking about counting calories, working out, and losing weight. Each was complaining about what they considered their problem areas. What was supposed to be a relaxing weekend was turning into a guilt trip. The guilt of eating certain things and not working out more regularly were bringing down the mood. And I’m concerned or better yet worry about all of those things but my outlook is a little different.
This also inspired the 10 Annoying Natural Hair Questions article. Women with natural hair have to deal with negative criticism because they choice to wear their hair natural. You don’t have add to the negativity.
When I look in the mirror, I absolutely see how my body has changed since the baby and then tack on the fact that I’m exiting my twenties. There’s a lot that just aint the same. SMH. But I don’t beat myself up about it. I haven’t taken a defeatist attitude either. I’m aware my calorie intake. I make it a point to work out and eat healthy. But I don’t disparage myself for that extra pound, cellulite sighting, or areas obviously affected by gravity.
If I wouldn’t say it to anyone else; I certainly wouldn’t say it to myself. If you don’t have anything nice to say don’t say anything at all. Don’t even think it. I’m working on the not thinking negative stuff. I don’t want any negative self-talk playing in my head like a broken record. It makes any positive words null and void. You have to be able to pay yourself compliments; and mean it. Replace any negative self-talk with nothing but positive.
I have found that its easier for me to accept compliments when I positively affirm myself in private. The compliments seem more genuine when coming from myself first. The sting of criticism isn’t so bad either. I can take ownership of my mistakes and fix them without feeling like my world is ending. No dwelling on them. Learn, correct (if I can) and move on. Point. Blank. Period.
Improve your body image by complimenting yourself. Replace any negative self-talk with nothing but positive self-talk. Don’t focus on your personal dislikes. Find that one thing that you can genuinely compliment yourself on. Focus on that. Then find other things to add to the list of likes. You’ll see a difference in how you see yourself and the world around you. You may even have more good hair days. 😉